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What's in a name?
Haven't you almost always thought about a person, either with reference to his/her name and/or face? In fact, once we know people with certain names, we begin to associate these names with our 'likeness' for that person. Often, when it comes to the question of selecting/recommending names for a newborn, these 'likeness' factors which we associate with names come into play. 'Yes, that's a really nice name - I know someone from college with that name who is really pleasant, talented and popular!'
I've also observed that the name of a person impacts his/her personality to a large extent. Given that a person lives with his/her name all day-all night long, probably the name becomes a manifestation of the intention for that person. That's why 'naming' a child assumes great importance in every family and often involves endless debates/dilemmas/options/name-lists/name books/calls to friends-pandits, etc. In fact, some people are very particular about finding out which letter the newborn's name should begin with, the most auspicious day and countless other traditions involved in 'naming' their child.
Coming down to business, these are the factors that one often keeps in mind (especially in our generation) while selecting names for the newborn (in no particular order of importance ;)):
1. Cannot be in the beginning or end of the attendance call! [Anyone who has studied a course where marks are allotted for attendance will know what I'm talking about - this rules out names with 'AA' or 'ZA'/'ZU']
2. Potential nicknames: In this day and age, everyone tends to shorten names. In fact, some people are given nick names in the beginning of college and these names have stuck with them for life. So much so, that sometimes you scratch your head wondering what their real name is! So, think about any potential nicknames (derived from shortening the proposed name) and whether you like them before you go ahead with any particular name.
3. To be safe, keep a short and simple name.
4. Dangers of mispronunciation: Follow #3 above and you alleviate any dangers of mispronunciation as well. Also, chances of people remembering the newborn's name are higher if the name is short and simple. As the world becomes a smaller place, chances of children going to universities abroad is higher and this will definitely help them! More so, your child will thank you for saving him/her the trouble of a lifetime of corrections.
5. Trendy - but does it last? Are we looking for some meaning and inspiration instead? Tempting as it may be - a trendy name ending with aa's or which sound unique and unusual but without any real meaning, may be like the latest song topping the charts! However, what you want is something from evergreen, full of soul and meaning. Remember, it affects the child's personality!
6. How common is the name? You don't really want to give the newborn a very common name. After all, he/she needs to be able to find a gmail address and a web domain that matches with their name. Admit it - we are living in the age of start ups and entrepreneurs. I know someone who, named his daughters based on the availability of gmail addresses and web domains and also blocked these immediately (once the name of decided).
7. Say it loudly - how does it sound? Yes. Simple. How does it sound? On this one, go with your instinct. Don't think too much.
8. Check the initials - To avoid any unpleasant surprises, make sure you check for the initials and that they don't stand for anything you would rather not have.
9. Sibling names - If the newborn has siblings, its good to say the potential name along with the sibling's name to see how they sound together. If there is a nice ring to it, go for it! Otherwise, give it some more time.
10. Reach out to friends and family for their suggestions :) In fact, my name was suggested by an uncle who visited my mother at the hospital after I was born! Family and friends love suggesting names and often feel privileged if the name proposed by them is finally selected. A newborn baby is an occasion to celebrate and brings the entire family together. In fact, when I was recently photographing the "naming/cradle ceremony" for little Aditeya in Hyderabad, it was wonderful to see how both his Mausis had actually travelled from one end of the world to be there for his 'naming ceremony'. I also came across this wonderful tradition where all the names which were under consideration for the child would be displayed on the wall and the 'winning name' would be displayed in the end. Before disclosing the name of the child and keeping him/her in the cradle (which is beautifully decorated with flowers), they keep a rock in the cradle, called "Gundappa"! The significance is that may the child be as strong as a rock! Other charming traditions included whispering names of 'Lord Krishna' and 'Lord Shiva' in the ears of the child while passing him from one member of the family to another, before finally keeping him in the cradle.
Aditeya was at his delightful best in the evening, when he was well rested and surrounded by his wonderful grandparents and gorgeous mom and mausis. We also had a wonderful candid photography session (before the actual ceremony) when we got some beautiful smiles from the little fellow! Here are some photos from that evening.
May he be as strong as a rock!
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I began the day by reading about 'light', i.e. in scientific terms, the electromagnetic radiation which travels through space in tiny bundles called photons. How incredible is it, that 'Light' = 'Photons' = 'Pure Energy' (No mass). It is the energy of the photon which produces an electromagnetic field around it. As we all know, the electromagnetic field of some photons fluctuates faster than that of others. In simpler terms, the more energy a photon has, the faster the fluctuation. Human eyes can detect this difference in the photon energy levels and the rate of field fluctuation, in the form of 'colour'. The rate of fluctuation of the electromagnetic field is its frequency. Visible light is only one narrow range out of the many possible electromagnetic frequencies.
For starters, we all agree that when it comes to 'Light', there is more than what meets the eye! Life too, is a similar phenomena. We are often blessed with so much goodness that if we were to count our blessings, we would probably lose count! Yet, we often cannot 'see' these blessings and get worked up about worries which are perhaps grounded on our own fears, prejudices and conditioning. I had the privilege of spending a few days with these wonderful children at a school in Bangalore. Whilst I started this project with a certain story line of 'black and white' images (thinking that it would be appropriate to represent their vision through the absence of colour), I couldn't have been more incorrect in my presumptions. By watching, interacting with and photographing these children, I realized that whilst they lacked one of the most important sensory abilities, they were brimming with enthusiasm, an unmatched curiosity to explore all that life has to offer and an innocence so beautiful, that it touches your very core. It didn't seem as if they felt that anything was missing in their life. In the true sense, they were the 'Children of Light'.
Sometimes, we emphasize more on what's missing in our life and, while doing so, we miss out on many other beautiful things. Let's begin this Diwali by celebrating the invisible spectrum of light, the goodness that often goes unnoticed. In gratitude. Let's be.
Many of us may be familiar with the festival of 'Dhanteras', which occurs two days before Diwali. As the name signifies, 'Dhanteras' is the festival of wealth and Lakshmi ji, the Hindu Goddess of wealth is worshipped to bring prosperity and wealth in the coming year. Many people buy gold or new utensils on this day, perhaps in the hope that it will lead to more of such things in the coming year ;)
As I was hearing about several relatives and friends buying gold, I wondered what I should do. Somehow buying gold for the aforesaid reasons didn't seem all that plausible. How could I adopt tradition and at the same time do something that makes sense to me? The phrase 'pot of gold' came to my mind and I thought - wouldn't it be fun to simply 'find' my 'pot of gold' as opposed to 'buying it'?? The next logical question was 'where should I look for my pot of gold?'. In a moment of illumination (and why not, given that Diwali is just round the corner ;)), I thought to myself that I shall celebrate this Dhanteras by simply following the rainbow and letting it lead me to the 'pot of gold'.
What's this rainbow and what's the pot of gold? Maybe the journey of sighting and following the rainbow, of being more tolerant of diversity, different cultures and religions will help us experience and be marvelled by the different colours of the rainbow. Maybe that's what the 'pot of gold' is really meant to be.
Find a different take on things. Follow your intuition. Have the courage to follow your dreams. Perhaps we can strive to be more in harmony with our inner selves and bring more harmony and peace in this world. Conflicts will always arise, in our minds, in our daily lives. Can we have more courage to be who we truly are and accordingly resolve these daily conflicts?
The Universe is always sending messages our way. Happy Dhanteras!